There are always consequences for each of our actions/choices...good and bad.

My thoughts are we all have free will to make good/bad choices/actions in our lives.

So...the question is who do you think of when your making them. Do you only think of yourself? Because each choice/action affects not only you/me...but those who are closest to us. This may be a difficult subject for some more than others. I have always been an observer of people around me..even at a young age. Therefore, I think I know quite a bit about the affect the choices/actions have on those that are closest to me.

The first circumstance that comes to mind is having to walk away from a relationship with a dear friend in High School. We spent almost every waking hour together. We were more like sisters. I loved her family. Just like they were my family. But...she was making choices that were affecting us both. I loved her very much and still to this day think of her often.

I had a wonderful ! Mentor in my life that pointed out what was happening. She was someone I trusted and knew she only wanted the "BEST" for me. She sat me down and said..."you see what is going on, right." I did...but didn't want to lose a friend.

Sometimes, we have to lose to gain.
Remember, all your choices affect others!
❤Kel

When I grow up.....or it seems the Journey is on going.

Growing up is a part of life..but I think for some it is a life long process. Each of us has our own specific Journey. I know I do. I know we have to take the good with the bad. We are all responsible for our choices and the consequences that come with them. I am thankful for the place I am at... and the future ahead. I have been thinking about all of this for awhile. So I thought I'd put it out there.

This was from a status I posted in March or April:

Ok....friends...Poll time. I am working on making some changes in life...As well as working on my BLOG....2 questions I have (please be honest)..:)....
1. What should I be when I grow up?__________
2. When I think of Kel Bird the one word that comes to mind is____________. Thanks for playing.

These are the answers that were given to the two questions:

A dancer and a very sweet person.
A therapist or Teacher/Honest
Therapist/kind
You should be a missionary ....or a social worker...caring :)
Teacher/Loving ♥
Teacher of therapists/ Supercalifragilisticexpialadocious :D love you!!
who needs to grow up/spunky
A crisis councilor/ loyal
princess... sexkitten (its totally one word)


I think it is funny to read what certain people think one word describes you. Some can use one word and others give an explanation. I love my Friends dearly and to see what they say makes me smile.

I think we are all on a journey of some kind. For some it may be spiritual, understanding themselves and finding their purpose in life. I know there may be many that have another reason for their journey.
We are all at different points on our journeys. Hopefully you are at peace with where you are. I know for me there are times I am. Then there are many times I am not and know something needs to change.

Hope this makes you think about your Journey.
Kel<3

questions to be answered

Just a few ??? that swirl around in my head Often.

Why am I here?
What Is my Purpose?
Where is my Fairy Tale?
When will I grow up?
Why does it hurt so much to Love something or someone you can't have?
What can I do to make a change?
Where is the Love?
When will my time come?
Why does Life seem fair for others and not sooo much for others?
Why is it there are times I feel I give my all and then it seems as if it was not enough?

thoughts....

At times I sit and think....
of the chances I have taken.
....opportunities I let pass.
....steps I have made.
....people who have walked out on my life.
....people in my life.
....pain I have had to Endure.
....lack of a real relationship with my mom...(whom I love dearly)
....women who have more than filled that void in my life. (to them I will be forever grateful)
....advice I have taken.
....advice I have given.
....advice I have ignored.
....advice I have given and then in turn...used myself :)
....my Beautiful, Wonderful, Lovely, Dear friends who have helped know
    who I am in all my struggles and in my joy.
....my Loving Family who is a constant encouragement.
....my precious girl who loves me, makes me laugh and gives me a hug always at the right moment.
....How thankful I am to be a sinner Saved by HIS Blood and Grace.

Kel<3

Change Brings Gifts!

I know what Love is...but not sure if I'll ever be able to keep it.

It is so hard to be the one who is told...."It's just not going to work or I don't see a future for us"....after all that you have gone through with that special person or so you thought. As well as, thinking your love was unconditional....but I guess it just was not that way at the moment.

What do you do with all the pictures and cards??!!... that meant soooo much. It's hard to let go and move on especially when you had the intentions to be in it for the long haul. I guess not having your say and how you felt about things makes it hard to grasp. Once the decision is made its made and there is no changing it. I very much dislike the pain...but I do know it will not go without a lesson learned and something once again to pass on.

I knew this year would be a year of change..but did not expect it to take a turn in certain areas. I have faults (quite a few which I don't hide them and hope to continue to work towards changing them) and "Baggage"... but who doesn't. We all have faults: Such as laziness in certain areas, we procrastinate, we have anger issues, hold things in and don't share our deepest fears, and we hide our pain and try our "BEST" to disguise it.

I can promise you in all of this.....I will hold the special memories close to my heart and the cherished time spent with those people who made a difference in my life for that time. One thing I have LEARNED is to be thankful in every situation and find what you need to grow and change from it. Not to say it does suck for a while, but that truly goes without saying...:)

Moving on and forward knowing that I am a strong woman who will love and do her best for those who are in her life. Walking through the open doors and allowing the doors that need to be closed are closed solid. Faithfully knowing I am not the one in CONTROL...but I have to do the work and follow my heart.

Looking forward to the Gifts that are coming with the change. A New Chapter Begins..........................

Kel<3

Love and Loss

Love and Loss......

Two Emotions...
Joy/Pain...or any of the many adjectives you can insert for your experiences.

Lets talk about the Love/Joy Part first.

The Love that makes you wake up in the morning is the BEST kind of Love. The truest definition of Love is....Actions. I think your actions are the best way to show Love. Using words to back up your actions is a wonderful way to show Love and should be done often. Love is also....unselfish and unconditional.  The way I believe true Love lasts is by always putting the other person first. Love can come in many forms. For example: Love for a lover, Love for a friend, Love for your family, Love for your child/children, Love for a Job, and Love for a passion you have.  Pick one and then you may understand what I am talking about.

I also think at times Love comes with a price..but it should not be a struggle to Love. I have many Loves in my Life...but knowing that Someone truly Loves Me for Me regardless of my past mistakes makes me want to wake up in the morning. As well as having someone that has more expectations of you than you do of yourself at times. Sometimes it takes, the perspective of that person to make you realize that you are worth the struggle. Sometimes hard work has to happen to make things better in your life. Knowing that their intentions are for the best even when you are afraid to make the steps to make changes that you know need to be made. Having that person/people in your life is..... How we know we are Loved.

The Joy part comes from watching those in our lives achieve the things they have been striving for. Joy is having a beautiful little girl who reflects your imperfections and best qualities. She is my mini-me and it is beyond fun to watch her  grow and change. Joy is being loved completely for all that you are.

Now....Loss/Pain

Loss and Pain go hand in hand. One will not be without the other. I think Loss and Pain make you stronger or push in a direction you need to go. Death of a loved one or family member is a Pain that many of us have had to endure. For me watching a beloved grandparent pass away is beyond what I never wanted to experience. The pain that is felt in those moments can hurt for many years until you properly grieve.

Loss and Pain over the ending of a marriage or a relationship. The hurt is almost crushing for a moment or for a while depending what you feel you need to do. From my experiences I have had two relationships that I thought were going to last. My pain is my pain and I will own it and move through it. Parts of me have changed because of them, but I know they have shaped parts of who I am as well. We all have situations or things in our life that cause us pain. It is how we choose to move on for ourselves and the people in our lives is what is important. I have many things I need to get past and moving through the pain is part of it.

Blessings.
Kel<3

"Blood is Thicker than Water" It is all in your interpretation.

I have been thinking a lot about the Phrase: "Blood is Thicker than Water"

.......because of all I have been through in my Life and the Relationships that have remained strong through all of it. As well as, reflecting on relationships I thought were strong yet now seem to be very one sided. Also, I feel I have lost people..... I thought would always be standing right by my side. I know all relationships, friendships even family members go through phases and sometimes you don't always feel close or people move away and you lose touch. But there are definitely, relationships/friendships that can go the test of time and distance...and yet the next time you talk/ or see each other it is as if nothing has changed.  I know that people do come and go from your life because they are meant to be there for a certain amount of time to teach you about yourself and help shape you into the person you are to become.

Here is the definition of RELATIONSHIP:

re·la·tion·ship

–noun

1. a connection, association, or involvement.

2. connection between persons by blood or marriage.

3. an emotional or other connection between people: the relationship between teachers and students.

4. a sexual involvement; affair. 

—Synonyms 1. dependence, alliance, kinship. 2. affinity, consanguinity. Relationship, kinship  refer to connection with others by blood or by marriage. Relationship  can be applied to connection either by birth or by marriage: relationship to a ruling family. Kinship  generally denotes common descent and implies a more intimate connection than relationship: the ties and obligations of kinship.

Here is the Definition of FRIENDSHIP:

friend·ship

–noun

1. the state of being a friend; association as friends: to value a person's friendship.

2. a friendly relation or intimacy.

3. friendly feeling or disposition.  

—Synonyms 2.  harmony, accord, understanding, rapport.

We all have certain people we go to without a doubt. In Moments of Crisis and Joy. Those we know will always tell us the Truth, be Honest, Forgiving, Loyal, Loving, Compassionate and not Judge us. They accept us for all our faults and still Love us in spite of them. I am beyond blessed and feel so grateful everyday for those I have this kind of relationship with. I Have FIVE people/couples (they know who they are without me even saying) that No matter what.... I know They will always have my back. I am beyond blessed to have an amazing Family and an UNMEASURABLE group of friends who LOVE ME FOR ME!!!!

As you can see when you read the Definitions of Relationship and Friendship one talks about the "Blood Bond" which is a fact. I believe from my experiences that there is a "Unspoken blood bond" that is created in friendships. I believe even though you are related to someone the definition of friendship applies more than relationship.

Here is a Status from My Facebook Page:

I might be opening a can of worms.....but what is your opinion on the statement: "blood is thicker than water"

Here are the responses I received:

bonds of family are stronger than bonds of friendship.

It may be thicker but it's also messier! ;)

my take....blood is thicker than water because the relationships between blood are more resonating. Whether bad or good your blood affects you to the core and it is always with you, water can be hot or cold but both can go stale and you throw away stale water.

Family is Family regardless of blood line....Blood line usually use that as an excuse but friends that are FAMILY are true!

...but I do think that the majority of the time that friends/husbands/wifes can come and go but family stays forever, like your kids and your parents .

What I have always told my girls is a sister's relationship is with you for life their well being should always come before a friend. 

I can attest to that! I wouldn't have a CLUE what I would do without my sisters right now. I love my friends more than life itself, but nothing like "blood"... just a bit different, in different situations..I am living it. ♥

Some of the comments ring very true. While, I may have a different opinion, I value each of you who choose to share. What I believe is regardless of family bond/ or friendship if the relationship is one direction it will not survive, it is about communication, forgiveness, honesty, and understanding.

<3 Kel