Love and Loss

Love and Loss......

Two Emotions...
Joy/Pain...or any of the many adjectives you can insert for your experiences.

Lets talk about the Love/Joy Part first.

The Love that makes you wake up in the morning is the BEST kind of Love. The truest definition of Love is....Actions. I think your actions are the best way to show Love. Using words to back up your actions is a wonderful way to show Love and should be done often. Love is also....unselfish and unconditional.  The way I believe true Love lasts is by always putting the other person first. Love can come in many forms. For example: Love for a lover, Love for a friend, Love for your family, Love for your child/children, Love for a Job, and Love for a passion you have.  Pick one and then you may understand what I am talking about.

I also think at times Love comes with a price..but it should not be a struggle to Love. I have many Loves in my Life...but knowing that Someone truly Loves Me for Me regardless of my past mistakes makes me want to wake up in the morning. As well as having someone that has more expectations of you than you do of yourself at times. Sometimes it takes, the perspective of that person to make you realize that you are worth the struggle. Sometimes hard work has to happen to make things better in your life. Knowing that their intentions are for the best even when you are afraid to make the steps to make changes that you know need to be made. Having that person/people in your life is..... How we know we are Loved.

The Joy part comes from watching those in our lives achieve the things they have been striving for. Joy is having a beautiful little girl who reflects your imperfections and best qualities. She is my mini-me and it is beyond fun to watch her  grow and change. Joy is being loved completely for all that you are.

Now....Loss/Pain

Loss and Pain go hand in hand. One will not be without the other. I think Loss and Pain make you stronger or push in a direction you need to go. Death of a loved one or family member is a Pain that many of us have had to endure. For me watching a beloved grandparent pass away is beyond what I never wanted to experience. The pain that is felt in those moments can hurt for many years until you properly grieve.

Loss and Pain over the ending of a marriage or a relationship. The hurt is almost crushing for a moment or for a while depending what you feel you need to do. From my experiences I have had two relationships that I thought were going to last. My pain is my pain and I will own it and move through it. Parts of me have changed because of them, but I know they have shaped parts of who I am as well. We all have situations or things in our life that cause us pain. It is how we choose to move on for ourselves and the people in our lives is what is important. I have many things I need to get past and moving through the pain is part of it.

Blessings.
Kel<3